Whilst digging around in my memories for the material for my book, “Sizzling at Seventy-victim to victorious”, I struggled with several conflicting emotions. I have my standard six pack of moods which I deliver up with great zeal at any opportunity- Resentment, Resignation and Anxiety – counterbalanced with Acceptance, Ambition and Wonder.

I have a thousand anecdotes for each. Just as well my speaking time is restricted! But there was still something missing and like a bolt of lightning, it hit me.  Where does the emotion of shame fit in? I realised that shame had been an overarching emotion for me most of my life and had severely restricted my growth. I have already decided that exploring this emotion will be the content of my next book.

Shame can be a true sickness of the soul and we all experience it sometime in our lives. It is when it becomes toxic that it inhibits our growth. In order for me to become victorious, I had to tackle this emotion and I learned that it involves working with the plasticity of the nervous system and it takes courage and a great deal of self compassion.

My passion now is to assist others through the pain of shame to become their best selves.

Lyn Traill
Author, Speaker, Trainer, Mentor