Another quote by Wayne Dyer has caught my attention and I included it in an article that I have written for an over sixties magazine. “Don’t die with the music still in you.”
I am aware that I am a late sizzler and yet in some ways, my journey is only just beginning. I recently read Gay Hendrick’s book The Big Leap and found it extremely inspiring. He talks about reaching our zone of genius and I identified that I had not reached that point, but more importantly I could clearly identify what was stopping me.
I discussed this recently with a dear friend who had always seen my pathway more clearly than I did myself. She said that she had come to realise that whilst my path very clearly is to speak, write and coach, her zone of genius was to find the core of her being and be there for others in her own quiet way. Our zone of genius does not necessarily mean that we are out in the public eye.
My darling husband encouraged me to write my book and two weeks after I completed it, he was diagnosed with the aggressive terminal illness that took him away so swiftly. There were many moments that threatened to lure me back into victim hood but he was adamant that I had not reached my zone of genius and has charged me with pursuing this course.
Mick has given me the gift of experiencing intense grief and I am grateful that I had the processes to get through a very difficult time. Now I have more to offer others who have experienced grief and can give them hope that there is a life still to live.
I keep finding little messages he has left me and only a few weeks ago found a USB with photos and my favourite songs and a message thanking me for our time together. He also admonished me to keep going. I am so grateful for the happiest years of my life, thus far, spent with this wonderful man. I miss him so much!
On my coffee table I have a book of poems he left me with the following inscription:
To my darling Lyn, for some quiet moments. Maybe our life can take in some of the peace in its pages for you are my perfect poem – the secrets of the universe in your face. For me, there is no-where else to go. You are the enchanted castle on the top of a Disney mountain. A Magic place full of joy and love. I love you so much.
It is more important than ever as we age to look for our zone of genius. There was a time when I thought it was too late for me. I was in deep resignation. Now I know it is never too late for us in some way to find fulfillment.
I recently contemplated on this whilst filling in a workbook prepared by the “For World Peace” foundation. Their formula was Intent+Effort+Grace = Growth.
What is our intent for life; what do we hope to gain from it (love, happiness, security etc); what effort are we prepared to put in? Then after stating our intent, why we want it, and our committed effort , can we accept the “grace” to allow it to happen without sabotaging ourselves?
I want to take a leaf out of Mick’s book and keep on the quest for my zone of genius. I will keep my promise and do my best to follow Wayne’s message.
“Don’t die with the music still in you.” Dr Wayne Dyer